Love

Love is the most talked about, written about, sung about, televised, and advertised concept in history… and yet, it remains the biggest mystery to so many. It is true that love is about relationship, but what gets lost in translation is that it is about your relationship with you. The chronicity of pain is the communication of learned danger signals, but it is also the communication of a distorted love relationship with yourself. You may be a people pleaser, sacrificing yourself at every opportunity to maintain the love of others, or you may be hardened and withdrawn, closing yourself off to the opportunities others present out of fear of disappointment or abandonment. Your early life experiences, and those of your parents which you inherit, are not your fault. However, you have the opportunity to restore the relationship of love with yourself. If that sounds corny, please know that this is not an advertisement, love song, or dramatic movie. You may have many friends and many lovers, but this says little about your friendship and romance with yourself. You may have a solid partnership of many years, but how solid is the partnership with yourself. You may know those close to you intimately and share openly amongst them, but how intimately do you know yourself? How open do you allow your own body and mind to speak without fear of retribution or punishment?

Love is becoming aligned with who you are in the deepest way. Loving yourself is honoring the truth of your expression emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It is opening up walled off spaces inside you and clearing cobwebs of fear and shame. Love allows you to see that you are light and dark, as are we all.

Please know this is not a message of urgency to go “find” love. It is a message of awakening to the fact that it is there for you and always has been, untainted and unharmed, waiting to be unleashed onto the world. If you cannot access it in this moment, or all the moments leading up to this one, do not despair. It is there for you still and you will get there in time. For now, just be with what shows up. Love brings up all kinds of fear - the fear of being damaged or unworthy, of being disappointed or abandoned, of being controlled or swallowed up. The journey to love brings up every distorted belief and negative emotion about the possibility of losing it. But if you discover that the source of love lives within you, you will realize it can never be lost. Only found. Only remembered.