Release “Get” Energy
I am borrowing this phrase from one of my healers as she has guided me to remember that we are supported beyond measure in our manifestation of abundance, opportunity, and love. We do not come to these things from a places of desperation and lack unless we want to continuously live from a place of fear and perceived safety. At the subatomic level, love and money are both energies, and if we have unhealed parts of us related to these energies, whether they stem from our experiences or the lineages of our family, these unhealed parts will create blockages to our ability to receive them. We are conditioned by societal expectations to create success by taking from the world and from others. Look no further than the earth itself for a large scale example of how we plunder it for its resources. In many ways, Western society is founded on “get” energy - the perception that we must use others in order to get the things we desire or believe we need. I am not saying that some cannot create wealth or success from this place of “get.” Jeff Bezos and his well-known company represent the ethos of this “get” energy as he is now off to space to see what else he can get beyond the realm of earth. The earth itself is not enough to satisfy his “get” energy. When we live from this place, all the money in the world - literally - is not enough. We will never truly get enough to satisfy our perceived needs for safety and success when we live from this place. “Get” energy knows only the fear of not enough. Not enough money, not enough love, not enough anything. From this place, there is no fulfillment center large enough to fill us up.
When I reflect on my motivations for life, they have always stemmed from a place of lack. I never felt truly worthy of love or money, and for that reason I acted as though as I did not need either so as to protect myself from the disappointment of not receiving them. However, I still felt the need to meet the expectations of others, which led to turmoil within me as I rebelled against the people in my life while also desperately seeking their approval. The need to be liked or given the stamp of approval grinded against my judgment of this need in others. Both perspectives are different sides of the same “get” energy coin.
I thought I was not competitive as a young person because I became so swallowed up in fear of competition that I could not perform to my potential. Once I found ways to bring safety to my nervous system and developed more confidence in certain areas, I saw how deeply competitive I was. Contrary to what I believed at the time, competition is not an inherently evil thing nor is money. They are forms of energy and expression that depend wholly on the beliefs they stem from. I carried beliefs of never enough and, therefore, always attempted to “get” or to choose not to play the game at all. I preferred not to compete or to cooperate with others and turned to drugs instead of people as a source to fill me up. However, no drugs or people can help win the battle waged in our mind from the belief of “not enough.” That conflict is up to us and the beliefs we carry.
For some, the place of “get” may work for a time and they may be quite effective at using others, using competition, using money, and using substances to fill them up. But truly the worst curse of all is for this to work because, unfortunately, it does not last. The system is inherently not built to last, like relying on a slot machine for steady income. In my case, I was blessed with the experience of it never really working to begin with, though I assure you I did not see it as a blessing at first. People never really responded to my “get” energy in the way that I hoped and I lamented not feeling as successful as my peers. I believe I was seen with credibility in certain areas in the eyes of others, but I was always left with a deep, insatiable need for more love, more approval, and more success in all the ways I defined them in the moment. My personal reality was pervaded by the view of being behind the curve of life. Only when I recognized sources of power, inspiration, joy, and freedom within me could I begin to show up for myself and others. As I surrender to my own experiment of healing, others are naturally attracted to it if they themselves are ready to receive what I have to give.
As I leave the clinic where I shaped my identity as a clinical psychologist and all the perceived safety that came along with that path, I leave behind the labels and identities that no longer serve me, along with the fears and doubts of how I will get clients and get wealth and get recognition. When I expand my awareness to the possibility that I already have what I need, that I am already fully supported, that I am already exactly where I need to be on my path toward my highest intention and vision, my body physically relaxes. My mind stops plunging forward. All I need to do is receive the invitation to transform and move closer to my truth. This is my life’s work, my purpose, and my way of being of service. From that place, I am already abundant, already wealthy, and already loved. In fact, I have no choice to be anything but those things as I move in alignment with what is meant for me. That may sound a bit “woo woo” for some, but think for a moment of the times you have been led by fear to do something “productive” in order to “get” something. How did this feel? Did it work out the way you wanted? Did it satisfy you? Maybe you did grow your business or nail your presentation by channeling your Jeff Bezos energy, but I wonder if it ever truly felt like enough and I wonder if it carried forth ongoing or simply died off like a sugar high, requiring more mere hours later.
Thanks to the support of my own healers, I am committed to living from a place of already having what I need. From this place, I do not sacrifice or overextend myself simply to work with people or enter relationships that do not suit my highest intention or theirs. I give what I have to give for what it is worth and I simply invite those who are ready to receive it to transform. You heal only when you are ready to release the “get” energy and recognize the purpose within you. Only when you recognize that what lives inside of you is more than you could ever get from what lives outside of you can you manifest what is meant for you.